If pregnancy is not a result of rape or incest and there are no serious health risks, and since adoption is an option, is abortion simply an act of selfishness?
No, are you going to pay for that persons hospital bills if they have to pay for it? Not to mention that carrying something inside you for 9 months is pretty unbearable, some women actually like working too.
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Do you disagree with the adoption process or the idea of adoption in general?
I have no problem with the adoption process or adoption in general. Only with the 'famous or star people' and for them it's only a publicity stunt.
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Those who are anti adoption, what if you were raped?
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship which ended shortly after I fell pregnant. I wanted to raise my son but was coerced into surrendering my son by my parents and adoption agency even though I hated his father for what he had done to me. If I had been raped I would have still have wanted to raise him as it wouldn't have been his fault I was raped so I would have loved him anyway. I loved my son from the day I knew I was pregnant so this is a non question to me due to my own experience.
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Why does the subject of adoption make people so crazy?
Because it is an emotive subject particularly for those of us who have had negative experiences with adoption. Two of my pet hates is when people refuse to believe that we tell our truths and that mothers who were coerced are supposedly blaming everbody else for their mistakes and that they really chose adoption. I know because I am one of those mothers who never actually agreed to my son being adopted but it still happened because I was lied to.
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Why do some people think adoption is bad?
This is probably the wrong forum to ask this question. Know that sounds funny, because this is the adoption section, but what I have come to learn from here is that people have different ideas of what is good and what is bad. Some will complain about their adoption and then in the next breath when confronted about it, they will deny hating adoption. You are absolutely right, being a mom is MUCH more than giving birth. I know plenty of biological moms that have raised their children, and they should never have been a mom. And I have known women who would make amazing moms and never were given that opportunity. There is nothing wrong with you wanting to be a mom. If you choose to adopt go about it ethically though. I have come to realize that not all adoptions are morally sound. Some birth moms have been coerced into placing their children. I met the 2 birth moms of our children, and I can tell you they were not coerced. As a matter of fact, both of them told us that they were being coerced by family and friends to abort, but they loved their children far too much for that. When and if you adopt- don't let the naysayers discourage you, and DO be honest and tell your children, at an early age they were adopted.
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