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On Thu, 18 Jun 2009 16:36:03 -0500, High Miles <...@comcast.net
For some people, optimistic thoughts can do more harm than good
“I CAN pass this exam”, “I am a wonderful person and will find love
again” and “I am capable and deserve that pay rise” are phrases that
students, the broken-hearted and driven employees may repeat to
themselves over and over again in the face of adversity. Self-help books
through the ages, including Norman Vincent Peale’s 1952 classic, “The
Power of Positive Thinking”, have encouraged people with low self-esteem
to make positive self-statements. New research, however, suggests it may
do more harm than good.
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Since the 1960s psychologists have known that people are more accepting
of ideas close to their own views and resistant to those that differ.
With regard to self-perception, if a person who believes they are
reasonably friendly is told that they are extremely gregarious, they
will probably accept the idea. But if told they are socially aloof, the
idea will most likely be met with resistance and doubt.
Wondering if the same tendencies could apply to making positive
self-statements, Joanne Wood of the University of Waterloo in Canada and
her colleagues designed a series of experiments. They questioned a group
of 68 men and women using long-accepted methods to measure self-esteem.
The participants were then asked to spend four minutes writing down any
thoughts and feelings that were on their minds. In the midst of this,
half were randomly assigned to say to themselves “I am a lovable person”
every time they heard a bell ring.
Immediately after the exercise, they were asked questions such as “What
is the probability that a 30-year-old will be involved in a happy,
loving romance?” to measure individual moods using a scoring system that
ranged from a low of zero to a high of 35. Past studies have indicated
that optimistic answers indicate happy moods.
As the researchers report in Psychological Science, those with high
self-esteem who repeated “I’m a lovable person” scored an average of 31
on their mood assessment compared with an average of 25 by those who did
not repeat the phrase. Among participants with low self-esteem, those
making the statement scored a dismal average of 10 while those that did
not managed a brighter average of 17.
Dr Wood suggests that positive self-statements cause negative moods in
people with low self-esteem because they conflict with those people’s
views of themselves. When positive self-statements strongly conflict
with self-perception, she argues, there is not mere resistance but a
reinforcing of self-perception. People who view themselves as unlovable
find saying that they are so unbelievable that it strengthens their own
negative view rather than reversing it. Given that many readers of
self-help books that encourage positive self-statements are likely to
suffer from low self-esteem, they may be worse than useless.
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