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butyoudontlooksick.com • View topic - I hate exercise

I hate exercise. Not just because it hurts during and afterwards, although it does.

I hate it because it's boring.

I hate it because for it not to be boring, I have to spend money I don't have and go somewhere 5 days a week for it to be effective and thus take away from our family time, I hate it becasue whenever I put in a concencrated effort and really exercise I never, ever lose weight. I got an exercise bike after my 3rd was born.

Shortly after, Lent started.

Now, we keep to the traditional fast- 2 small meals not equal to one normal meal, and then one normal size meal and only the normal size meal can have meat.

I gave up sweets that Lent (the full 40 days- broke it on Sundays only.

Which is traditional) I was nursing a newborn.

I rode my bike for 30 minutes M-F from Ash Wednesday until Easter.

I lost 3 lbs. I was exempt from the fast but kept it, in large part to lose the weight. I was always a very active child, riding bikes, playing raquetball, shooting baskets, but in jr.

High and high school I did sports and PE and all exercise became associated with for me was failure.

I had asthma but didn't get diagnosed until after high school because my main symptom was shortness of breath and not wheezing.

Plus, I had exercise intolerance in general.

I could not tolerate exercise.

I tried cross country- never got over the shortness of breath.

Tried swim team- same thing, and got a concussion on two seperate occasions on the flip turn by hitting the wall.

Tennis- was good at it but the coach was a *--;

Had me do a match with the other freshman on the team, I lost by one point and was not allowed to compete all season.

In eight grade, I tore a bunch of small cartilage in my knee and was on crutches for 4 months.

I was told I had Osgood-Shlatters disease, which the doctor described as simply "growing pains".

In 10th grade, I tried soccer, which started with 3 mile run warmups.

I partially tore my Achilles tendon in a sprinkler hole and was in a cast for 3 months.

I loved roller skating- but we could only afford to join the club and could not afford private lessons so I couldn't compete. Did the gym thing in college, plus didn't have a car and walked everywhere.

The gym was boring, but I was faithful to it, and I walked at least an hour a day.

I was normal weight, but I never LOST weight.

My body seemed stuck at 135 and I'm 5'4.

The lowest I've ever got was 125 and that was when I was running 3 miles a day- I do not like running enough nor care about that extra 10 lbs enough. Realizing that I'm at best prediabetic and I HAVE to lose this weight, I'm coming up with an extreme emotional reaction against exercise.

I simply hate it.

It is associated with nothing but failure and pain for me.

In jr. high and high school sports, no matter how good I was, it was the popular girls who got to race in the sprints or swim the 50 meters or play the singles matches.

I always got injured, even with guidance in both P.E.

And sports. I had good coaches in that area, for the most part.

And no matter how hard I tried, I have never lost weight.

Only my psych doc believed my efforts and ran every single test that it is possible to run on a thyroid- I came out fine.

Slightly before I concieved my 4th, I got a mini trampoline, and I jumped on it for 25 minutes 5 days a week, again during Lent, again giving up sweets and watching my bad carbs- I may have lost a pound before I got pregnant, at which point that form of exercise had to go in favor of hanging my head over the toilet.

I tried Pilates when I was pregnant and totally hated it.

Tried Tae-Bo; not in good enough shape for even the starting out version. I could walk, but it rains from October to May here and I hate the cold, I hate it so much.

And I hate cold rain blowing in my face.

It's not the 40 degrees as much as 40 degrees plus rain.

The dog really could use the walks, and it would be good for me, but I just hate it.

If I bring the kids, we go at a snail's pace and it's not enough to lose weight, even though I'm pushing a double stroller (40 lb.

Kid + 20 lb. kid + 10 lb.

Stroller should count for something, but it doesn't seem to with the scale).

If I swim or join a gym or walk in the mall, I have to give up the limited time I have with my husband each night and go there for at least 30 minutes or so each evening.

I feel stupid doing exercise videos and that cuts into my precious nap time.

I nap when the kids nap, or I'm exhausted by 5 or 6 each evening.

Plus, that is MY time.

I'm jealous of it. Honestly, all I can think of when I exercise, because I hate it, is that "I have to exercise because I'm fat".

It's the same thing with eating healthy.

"I have to eat this and I cannot eat that because I'm fat".

Luckily I have no appetite lately and so diabetic food is about as appealing as regular food. Anyone struggled with this?

Any thoughts?

Racquetball, eh? We have something else in common girl.

DH and I played racquetball for years and it was the only, and I mean ONLY form of exercise I truly enjoyed.

Of course, can't do it anymore so, like you, I had to figure out how to keep some sort of exercise regiment going.

Right now, the only thing I can comfortably do is a mild form of yoga.

Not the type that would really help to lose weight but my reason, per my Rheumy, is to keep the muscles moving whether it's painful during or afterward.

I HAVE to do something or the muscles atrophy.

I walk too but again, like you, can't do it in the cold.

So Spring, Summer and Fall are my time for that but it can't be far and hills are a killer.

I'm sure you'll get many suggestions that will be helpful.

Good luck.

I love exercise! I'm like an addict needing her fix.

It's awful. The problem is my body doesn't like exercise.

It worsens the chronic fatigue and makes my fibro burn. Have you thought of putting your exercise bike in front of the tv, Sara?

If you were going to watch anyways, it breaks the boredom, eh?

I do my yoga in front of the tv.

There's a tv downstairs in front of the gym equipment, but I found last night that watching the heart monitor numbers was entertainment enough.

Weird. But it did make the walk more like a meditation, which was nice. I've been using the treadmill for two weeks and have zero weight loss to show for it.

It's been that way since I got sick.

But now I'm scared for my heart and stroke risk so figure do it anyways and stop looking at the weight.

And maybe when I don't look at it, it can sneak away or something. Maybe if you looked at how exercise protected you and changed your brain chemistry to help you a little with your depression, maybe that would be inspiration?

Quote: : But now I'm scared for my heart and stroke risk so figure do it anyways and stop looking at the weight.

And maybe when I don't look at it, it can sneak away or something. Maybe if you looked at how exercise protected you and changed your brain chemistry to help you a little with your depression, maybe that would be inspiration? I like the way you think Sara, I ....

*looks up height and weight, does conversion to metric* *blinks* *blinks again* Umm, your just a bit shorter than me, and weigh less than I do*.

So, you really can't be all that far from your ideal weight.

Now where did that "I'm fat" come from?

I'm confused. I can understand that being prediabetic sounds scary.

But keeping diabetes at bay is (from what I've seen in other people) more a matter of 'fitness' than of net weight. I'd recommend you find some kind of exercise you can live with (which might indeed be hard to do in your case, I hope someone else will have some ideas), and do that.

The goal should be to exercise regularly, without exhausting or hurting yourself in the process. I also just recalled that muscles weigh more than fat does, so even though there's no change in what the scale says, your body might reshape to something a little fitter than before. How does your hubby feel about exercise?

Could you spend your precious time together doing something for your fitness levels?

My b/f's parents go on bicycle tours together, and also to the sauna once a week. And of course, no matter what you will start out with, take your time before you go and do it, your body is still recuperating from that gallbladder surgery and the resulting fallout.

Don't be too hard on yourself, ok?

You have amazing resolve;

If you keep to the Lent fast even though you're exempt...that's something you can be proud of (as a comparison: I wouldn't last a day through fasting ^^ ). As for all the bad experiences you had with sports in the past *HUGS* I would not be surprised if you actually developed some form of anxiety towards exercise.

Being avoidant (making sensible excuses as to why you cannot do something) could be an indicator of this.

That might be a big roadblock in your way, and would best be dealt with with the help of a counsellor.

As you also suffer from depression, I hope you already have one.

Or else, finding one might be doubly helpful. I feel like I need to add a disclaimer that I might be totally off track with some of my assumptions, and that I feel slightly silly giving advice on weight management as a naturally slim person.

Then again, outside perspective and such *shrugs uncertainly* *I'm pretty close to my own ideal weight after studiously (and slowly) gaining weight for the past 2 or so years.

Quote: : Quote: : But now I'm scared for my heart and stroke risk so figure do it anyways and stop looking at the weight.

And maybe when I don't look at it, it can sneak away or something. Maybe if you looked at how exercise protected you and changed your brain chemistry to help you a little with your depression, maybe that would be inspiration? I like the way you think Sara, I ....

*looks up height and weight, does conversion to metric* *blinks* *blinks again* Umm, your just a bit shorter than me, and weigh less than I do*.

So, you really can't be all that far from your ideal weight.

Now where did that "I'm fat" come from?

I'm confused. Well, now I'm 195.

After my 3rd was born, I was 170- Seroquil gave me 10 extra I was 235 at the end of this pregnancy and now I'm between 195-205 depending on where I am in my cycle- I put on an average of 10 lbs.

Water weight the last week before I start. I know exercise is a great anti-depressant, good for energy, health, pain control, and apparently obesity is the cause of all America's troubles from the war in Iraq to the gas mileage crisis ...but all I hear is weight.

It doesn't matter how much I exercise, how much I eat right, if I'm not losing weight, it's my fault- doctor's summed up version.

I hate doing it, and if I'm going to "fail" anyways, why not enjoy myself? But then I look in a mirror.

I was never gorgeous but there was a time I considered myself pretty.

And I think of how young I am and what all this health stuff means and I am so overwhelmed. Quote: : How does your hubby feel about exercise?

Could you spend your precious time together doing something for your fitness levels?

My b/f's parents go on bicycle tours together, and also to the sauna once a week My husband is completely unwilling to do anything in this area.

It's the one and only area he's kind of a jerk about.

He'll take family walks but that's it.

The only reason he kept to the diabetic diet during the pregnancy was for the baby.

He has a good 30-40 lbs to lose himself;

He's been diagnosed with sleep apnea and he won't deal with it- they said he probably won't need to go on a machine if he has his tonsils removed and loses weight and he won't exercise.

He doesn't want me to spend money to buy a decent treadmill or other piece of exercise equipment, doesn't think joining a gym will work, basically throws cold water on any idea but walking the dog in the freezing cold. Quote: : As for all the bad experiences you had with sports in the past *HUGS* I would not be surprised if you actually developed some form of anxiety towards exercise.

Being avoidant (making sensible excuses as to why you cannot do something) could be an indicator of this.

That might be a big roadblock in your way, and would best be dealt with with the help of a counsellor.

As you also suffer from depression, I hope you already have one.

Or else, finding one might be doubly helpful. Yeah, I should discuss this with my counselor.

I have one, but I haven't found counseling to be helpful for me.

Nice to vent, but not helpful. I'm sorry...don't mean to sound ungrateful for the advice or pouty- I know I've developed some sort of anxiety/block with it.

Plus, it means having to face up to things about myself that have changed and I really don't want to do that....

Quote: : Plus, it means having to face up to things about myself that have changed and I really don't want to do that.... That, unfortunately, is an important step in coming to terms with being a Sick Person versus Who You Were Before.

A vital step. You have to make it.

We all do at some point.

So this is huge. Sorry. But it brings power and clarity so that finding the solutions that fit our unique needs is possible.

So it's a good step to take.

Getting sick was the worst part, facing it only brings good things. Plus, you've got to remember...

How you look right now, how you feel right now, how things are right now...

That's temporary.

Transient. If you want, you can change your reality with a shift of your mind.

You will still be a Sick Person.

Still have Weight Issues.

Still be married to a basically great guy but one who won't help you with your exercise.

But you will have changed.

Change the mind, change the life. And it starts with facing your truths.

Put that vital step off and you are only choosing to stay stuck in the Right Now where you are unhappy, overweight and ill. I have a friend who went from 'uh oh, you are starting to look pre-diabetic' all the way to 'you now have type one diabetes' all because she refused to face that things had changed for the worse.

They already had!

Not looking, not facing, not processing, not seeing it clearly...

It DISEMPOWERED her. Don't make her mistake.

She's pegging out sometime soon.

And why? Because she just wanted everything to be the same as it was ten yeas earlier.

When that boat sails, you gotta move on to Plan B.

Everyone of you has terrific advice.

I have got some good ideas from you all. I need to lose weight too.

I was an excercise addict before all this happened.

Now, with this possible "muscle disease" I am finding it so hard to do a fraction of what I used to. Thanks so much for posting this subject on here, because I find it hard to get motivated to excercise too. I hope you can find your perfect or at least most comfortable way of dealing with the excercise issue.

Hugs to all, especially ORmommy.

Oh Sara, no wonder you have a hard time getting started, between an unsupportive (on this issue, anyway) husband and a less than excellent medical team, with family to care for on top of all that....Whew!

Baby steps, eh? Little by slowly, you can work on improving your situation. For one thing, if your doctor thinks that it is imperative that the weight must come off, then by all means, shouldn't he do his damnedest to help you lose it?

Which would include proper pain management.

Wasn't he the one with the pain contract?

Because if so, that ain't helping.

I'm sure you'd be more inclined to exercise if it hurt less. Equally, better treatment for the depression and bipolar* might help making progress in therapy. The more I think about it, the more I get the impression that it is not you who needs more motivation, but your surroundings: Your doctor should be more motivated to treat you as best he can. Your husband should be more motivated to care for his own and your weight/fitness. And so on. You'll need lots of spoons, so please accept these freshly picked from the silverware drawer *which is kinda complicated to treat well, if I read on these forums correctly

Quote: : For one thing, if your doctor thinks that it is imperative that the weight must come off, then by all means, shouldn't he do his damnedest to help you lose it?

Which would include proper pain management.

Wasn't he the one with the pain contract?

Because if so, that ain't helping.

I'm sure you'd be more inclined to exercise if it hurt less. Equally, better treatment for the depression and bipolar* might help making progress in therapy. The attitude at my whole doctor's office, espeically w/ chronic conditions, is unbelievable.

One of the first times i went in there, when fibro symptoms were really starting to be debilitating and I was basically having doubling over pelvic pain for half my cycle, one of the FNP's there told me I had pain because I was so fat that it was pressing on my uterus and to go on the South Beach Diet.

I didn't get referred to an OB until a complicated miscarriage almost a year later.

I have one FNP I can get along with there and unfortunately, what she can do is limited.

I've spent 2 days trying to get a simple anti-inflammatory phoned in.

I'm just sticking it out until my husband gets his work coverage. My psych doc is great.

My bipolar is tricky because 1.

I'm still nursing (I'm determined to make a year- March 4th, especially since he cannot tolerate formula) and don't like to be on meds unsafe for pregnancy, 2.

Many bipolar meds can actually cause PCOS and diabetes, and almost all cause weight gain, and 3.

As a rapid cycler whose main problem is depression, I don't respond to a lot of typical meds.

It's frustrating. I think- after having been in therapy on and off since I was 10- I'm just not a therapy person.

Maybe I'm too introverted.

But I'm sticking it out because my other theory is maybe I never stick it out long enough to get past surface stuff, and my life is so chaotic there is tons of surface stuff.

Plus, it's nice to vent.

After this week, I NEED to vent. I made a call to the gym one block from our house today.

They're having a "no signing up" New Year's Special, and they said they have plans ranging from 20-60 a month.

And they're 24 hours, so I'd have a LOT of flexibility timewise.

I don't know. I'll go see what I get suckered into tomorrow. Thank you so much for all the spoons.

I'm going to take them all and go to sleep.

(Need a picture of a spoon shaped bed with a sleeping smilie on it)

I hear you, Sara, I got the "you need to lose weight" talk again today from my rheumy.

I know that if I lose weight, I might have less pain.

That being said, he did congratulate me for losing 13 pounds since last fall. But it's easier to tell someone to lose weight than to do it.

It costs $$$ to go to a gym or swimming pool, money I don't really have.

When you're flaring, and your body hurts and/or is too fatigued to get out the front door, well....I'm going to try for walking a few minutes at first, and extending it to 1/2 hour, at least for the interim. Hope that you have a good sleep tonight, Sara. HUGS

Quote: : I hear you, Sara, I got the "you need to lose weight" talk again today from my rheumy.

I know that if I lose weight, I might have less pain.

That being said, he did congratulate me for losing 13 pounds since last fall. At least your rheumy acknowledged it.

Every single visit they bugged my mom about her weight, especially after she got her type II diabetes diagnosis.

She got diagnosed w/ sleep apena around the same time.

Well, she had extra energy from having the sleep apnea treated and she was totally depressed over the diabetes, so she didn't do anything about it except switching to Splenda for her one cup of coffee in the morning.

She was so depressed she ate less and was doing extra housework because of the extra energy from having the sleep apena treated that she lost 50 lbs.

Not one doctor ever acknowledged it or said a word to her b/c she still has about 40 lbs.

To lose. But it was a huge accomplishment!

50 lbs. in less then a year. I was so grateful my OB never bugged me about my weight.

I used to turn around for the scale at OB visits because I have so many stomach problems during pregnancy I eat what I can tolerate.

I only found out how much I weighed the night before I was induced. I'm warming up to the idea of the gym membership...it's so close and it would be a nice getaway.

Wish I had some brilliant ideas, but I don't.

I also have trouble motivating myself to exercise for the boredom reason.

And, like Rose, I hate walking in the cold months. My husband also needs to exercise (he has diabetes), but he too has trouble motivating himself.

But when the weather is relatively nice and/or warm, we will go on a 30-minute walk around our neighborhood. I don't drive, so I find it a pain in the behind to go to the gym.

Oh sure I could take paratransit, which would force me to go since I plan it ahead of time.

But, I'm intimidated by gyms!!

Plus, I'm afraid of doing weights because of my neck. Don't have the $$$ or space to buy home equipment either. So yeah Sara, I'm right there with ya!

I don't need to lose much, if any, weight, but I want to find ways to keep moving to loosen my muscles and so they don't get too weak.

So when DH says let's go to the store, I go with him because that's moving LOL!! hugs

I watched a study on the television a few days ago (okay more to the point Tim watched the study and woke me up at the interesting points) where they monitored how many calories people burn just doing their day to day lives / jobs.

One of the group was a taxi driver but just in her day to day life she was walking around four miles a day (around the house / through shops / to and from places). Cleaning the carpet - counts as exercise Swaying from side to side whilst stood at the sink doing the washing up - counts as exercise Even breathing burns calories So if you're scared at the thought of going to the gym and pushing your bodies limit that way just be sensible. Scary as it sounds 3500 calories = 1 pound weight loss But not so scary when you realise that your approximate resting (basal) metabolic rate burns 1371 calories per day (this is dependent on your age / height / weight) So rather than trying to work out how you can force yourself to go to the gym stop and think seriously about what you eat, how many calories you consume (and they way they are consumed). Quote: : Activity Calorie spend per minute Laying Still 1 Sitting, Standing, Reading, Writing, Eating, 1.5 Driving car 2 Washing Floors, Sweeping and Ironing 2.2 Golf 2.5 Walking 5 Km per hour speed 3 Walking 7 Km per hour speed 4.5 Walking 9 Km per hour speed 9 Gardening, Weeding 5 Cycling 3.5 - 8.0 Dancing 5 Table Tennis 5.5 Tennis 6 Swimming 3 Km per hour Speed 9 Football 8 Running 10 - 285 The main problem is that when people think of exercise they think it's going to hurt or that they've got to run for miles and miles before it'll do them any good.

This puts them off and so they avoid the idea.

OR they go crazy and full of energy for the first week and then get disheartened when by Tuesday they're not a size 8 with firm buttocks and stop. Weight loss is something that needs to be considered carefully and SLOWLY.

The slower it comes off the better chance you have of shifting it. So instead of worrying about getting your gym membership and other expensive things booked why not grab a duster and clean the house, put some music on while you do it so that you're tempted to wiggle a little more (all burns calories!).

When your sat at your computer keep your legs moving - raising up on to your toe tips and back down - little gentle things like this are great for muscle tone! And remember!

The more you "exercise" the better you'll feel!

The brain releases feel good chemicals for you!

But also! If you don't loose weight - just see if you're building up muscles!

I am just starting to again try and lose weight.

My muscles tire so easily I never get to that BURN they talk about and if I overdo it I am sorry for days.

I know there must be a happy medium but I have yet to find it.

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