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two married woman,one lesbian one not... - eNotAlone
Wow where do I begin,a bit about myself, I have been a lesbian all my life,I have been married to another woman for about 4 years.we do holidays,vacations,family functions etc,all seemed perfect with the relationship,until that one day,this woman i never saw before had me in a trance.I mean this woman knocked me to my knees,I could not stop looking at her,and SHE DID THE SAME THING.We take the same bus home at the end of the working day.Months after constantly secretly looking at each other, without the other one really noticing, WE SPOKE.
Lots of detail about our talks but cutting to the chase, she is a straight married woman,i always got the impression that she may or may not be curious about being with a woman,even though she made it very clear she was married,she always looks at me a certain way,talks to me with a certain flirtacious way,etc.After being a lesbian all my life you know the difference between a "interested" touch and a "friendly" touch.After a long while of riding home together and sharing stories i decided to pull back a bit because i didnt want to her to feel that i was stalking her or even that i expected her company,so for about 3 weeks we didnt bump into each other ( i altered my schedule a bit), then to my amazement i go to the bus and there she was...waiting for me, she asks where have i been all this time and that she has been looking for me,i simply said i have been delayed with work,she then moves forward and gives me a slow soft kiss on the cheek but very close to my lips,i, of course reciprocated, we board the bus and she sits so close to me i could feel her thigh rubbing on mine,let me say that i never expected her to give me a kiss or to sit so close,frankly because i didnt think we reached that plateau and wondered if we ever would,as we get off the bus she turns to me,looks me in the eyes and without a blink and a sad face while she positions her body inches from mine,says i'm not sure when i'm going to see you again, but i hope to see you soon and it was nice seeing you again, and just stands there as if waiting for something,so I lean in and give her the same type of kiss she gave me.Look i know this is all wrong, we are both married,but we make each other feel something, something our spouses do not.i'm not looking to leave my wife nor her her husband.
I think her and I are just looking for that extra something that makes life so sweet, and we found it in each other,sounds nuts, i know but i cant stop thinking about this woman.
and now I ask you...leaving out the harsh comments that may come in response to this post,do you think i'm creating this prelude to an affair in my head?
Or do woman married to men feel this for other woman?
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So you wanna have your cake and eat it too.
would you be OK with your wife having a little something on the side?
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Sounds like you both are craving attention that you should be getting from home....
I wouldnt continue unless you both want to be prepared to suffer the consequences...
It is all about the forbidden fruit.
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Thanks for your input and yes i do want to have my cake and eat it to,what good is a cake if you cant eat it, however in that same breath i certainly would not be ok with my wife doing the same.it would hurt me deeply, but i honestly dont know how to control these feelings i have for this other woman.
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I'm not prepared to handle the effect of my cause...ay yes the forbidden fruit.
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Quote: : Thanks for your input and yes i do want to have my cake and eat it to,what good is a cake if you cant eat it, however in that same breath i certainly would not be ok with my wife doing the same.it would hurt me deeply, but i honestly dont know how to control these feelings i have for this other woman.
I think maybe your relationship is stale and your looking for that butterfly feeling again...excitement.
I have been there, trust me.
I think its natural, we are human, we are sexual and crave attention.
Maybe you should talk to your wife about adding some spice is she into threesomes?
im sorry, i hope that isnt too personal i just mean, maybe spicing up in the bedroom...
Whatever your into...
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You are right, our relationship is incredibly stale and boring, i have spoken to my wife about this many times and have made many suggestions and to how to spice it up,and she'll agree but it doesnt go any further than that.so yes i am attracted to this woman that given me all this attention and making me feel wanted, and i say this honestly,i dont want to cheat on my wife,but i'm not sure how to stop needing what i need because my wife wont provide it.
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And nope, my wife is not into anything like that at all.
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I dont think you should stop needing it.
You are human. i would say that your wife, being your wife should provide these things.
If she plans on spending the rest of her life with you, than she needs to do whatever it takes to make you happy and monogamous.
That is why most people stray.
I dont condone cheating..
I prefer honesty.
If you talk to her and she doesnt follow through, what about marriage counseling?
I would at least try a little to see if there is something you can do before getting any on the side.
That usually never works out and the drama isnt worth it in the end.
I say talk to her, and try the counseling...
If it still sucks, you have every right to find someone that matches your prowess...
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Wow indierockgrl...thanks, you know i have to say and admit that not once did i think think of counseling, after having friends that have walked down that avenue to salvage their relationships, I shouldve known better.
I guess the thought of the "work" is not as enticing as the idea of having an affair.
BUT WOW this woman is sssoooo damn HOT AND SEXY, all i do is think of her and wait breathless with anticipation until i see her after work i know...that has to stop.
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