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So someone sent my girlfriend flowers.... - eNotAlone
So I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now...We are definitely in the bickering stage...
Things are great with us most of the time but it seems like once every week or so we have stupid arguments....
Things I dont feel like need to be arguments.
Just disagreements that should be discussed not fought.
She tells me she loves me and I'm the only one she has ever loved.
She had other relationships but the longest she has had has only been a few months.
She does great things to show me she cares and loves me, but sometimes I question stuff.
Im a pretty secure person and I dont get jealous, however lately I seem to be bothered by some situations that make me feel akward at times.
She can be very affectionate at times and others not very at all.
She had complained to me that I dont show her enough affection at times and I changed that to make her feel more "wanted".
Now I feel at times that I am too affectionate.
So today we are hangin out and she gets a call from her dad (she's living at home while she continues with school) and says that she got flowers today.
She looked at me and said, Did you send me flowers?
I said nope... She said, are you lying?
No one else knows my favorite flower....
I said, no it wasn't me.
She kept prying sayin that she doesnt know if she believes me.
So finally I call her tonight after she got home and she said nothing about it.
After talking for awhile I asked her who sent the flowers.
She said, I dunno...
It only had my name on it and nothing else...
What kinda makes it uncomfortable is that she moved about 7 months ago and no one really has her address.
I figure if it was a friend of hers they would of course sign it.
The only thing I could think of is that it was from someone she works with becuase they would have access to her addy...
What makes it kinda uncomfortable for me is that she is going out this weekend with everyone from her work for drnks...
Should it bother me?
Should I say anything about it making me feel a lil uncomfortable that someone is sending her flowers?
I get its not her fault, its jus pisses me off a lil that someone that has met me and knows she is in a realtionship is disrespecting that or would find it appropriate to send someone elses girlfriend flowers, ya know?
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This is one of those situations where it's actually better to do nothing, and anything you do probably will backfire.
* * * * * ing about the flowers or trying to find out who sent them, etc., just makes you look bad.
Sit back and let it slide.
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Thats kinda wut I figured...
I wud never try and figure out who sent them...
I was jus wondering if I should tell her it made me feel kinda akward...
I guess there's no point tho...
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Quote: : I wud never try and figure out who sent them...
Liar! if there was a way to find out you'd do it.
We all would
Quote: : I was jus wondering if I should tell her it made me feel kinda akward...
I guess there's no point tho...
There is a point, because you'll show her that you're protective of her and that you don't want other men making move on her.
Imagine if a girl (potentially from your work) sent you some aftershave to your home address.
She would be ANGRY.
She'd probably make you throw the bottle away.
Why haven't you told her how uncomfortable it makes you feel that there's someone pursuing her?
Way to make her feel special & wanted!
It's not her fault (we presume) but at the same time, it doesn't hurt anything by showing her you're slightly jealous and feel vulnerable that someone is after her.
In fact, she'd probably see it as a compliment.
My vote is 'tell her'
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Hmnnn.. my parents and friends have sent me flowers..
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I jus dont know if its worth saying something when it's an issue she has no control over.
She knows it bothered me becuase when she found out, I found out.
I was sitting next to her on the couch and she definitely noticed that my body language changed afterwards becuase she asked if I was alright.
I said of course and kinda let it go....
She would be livid if it happened to me..
She can definitely get jealous at times.
She is a very outgoing person and I am extrememly outgoing.
I am always the center of attention and very personable.
I have always been completely fine with anyone trying to pursue someone I have been in a relationship with.
I am confident in the type of person that I am and that if someone random could sway the person I'm with to stray then they dont deserve me.
I know it happens, I know she gets hit on alot, no big deal.
On the other hand, I dont really care to hear about it, I dont think there's a point to share it with me.
She knows I care.
I jus dunno if confronting this issue is a way to show her that...
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She lives with her parents so it wasn't them and if it was a friend don't you think they would sign it?
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I wouldn't make a fuss unless she starts acting weird like she is cheating.
But sometimes admirers have no respect.
My ex had a guy at her work doing all kinds of favors for her.
I knew it was out of ordinary, she didn't.
He asked her out months later.
I told her, 'told ya so.' his favors stopped after that.
Lol i didn't have to do a thing.
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Maybe she made it up to upset you.
I don't know if that's something she would do, I'm just sayin.
Don't make a big deal about it.
She can't control someone else sending her flowers.
One of the biggest turn offs is a guy that gets jealous about things you have no control over
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