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Non-nudist mate? - DennyP Travel Message Board
I'm a hedo veteran and a nudist.
My new mate has never done the nudist thing and thinks "no way".
He's been in the "lifestyle" but the idea of public nudity is foreign to him.
Of course, I'm hoping I'll convert him by the end of the week!
I recall that people on the nude side are mostly tolerant of well behaved, non-gawking clothed men when their partner is nude.
Is that generallly true?
He is late 40's, black, friendly, great guy, won't be aggressively hitting on anyone.
Do you think people will give us a hard time if he's clothed?
Teasing is ok just no complaining!
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Everyone reacts differently.
Most people probably won't like him hanging out at Delroy's with his pants on.
Some may say something.
Frankly, with his clothes on, he might be mistaken for staff on the nude beach.
I think he'll be naked within one hour of arriving on the beach.
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Security tends to approach clothed guests that linger on the nude side.
Quote: s & Reservations from DennyP Travel L.L.C.
- http://www.dennyp.com/dennyptravel/Quote: _request.htm
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Get him naked, or move him to the other end of the beach.
Some folks just won't tolerate that situation.
Sorry, but that's just sort of how it tends to work out.
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Thanks for the feedback.
If I just walk him through, stop for a drink at DelRoy's at let him soak up the vibe, do you think people will be still be uncomfortable?
It's been a few years since I've been to hedo, but I don't recall people being that strict about it unless there's a single male who just lurks.
I'll admit I wasn't paying a whole lot of attention to the topic, though.
People won't mistake him for staff or a local that I just brought in off the street.
He's a giant, former pro athelete and looks the part.
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Thanks for the feedback.
If I just walk him through, stop for a drink at DelRoy's at let him soak up the vibe, do you think people will be still be uncomfortable?
I doubt anyone would complain about that;
Especially if you are naked, outgoing, friendly, and sort of explain the situation.
I think most people would tend to be supportive and helpful in that sort of situation.
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Here would be my suggestion.
Get him naked but wrap himself in a towel from the waist down.
Walk down to Delroy's that way.
If he's comfortable enough in that, I don't think you will have a problem and I'd have to agree with Chris that he'll be nekkid (you do know the difference between naked and nekkid, right?
) within an hour of hitting the beach.
Dropping the towel at that point will become really easy...no clothes to remove, etc.
Have fun,
diane
PS: Naked = having no clothes on
Nekkid = having FUN with no clothes on!!!!
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I agree with diane, hi diane!!!
Take her advice. one year when we were there a couple came to the nude side and it was OBVIOUS it was their first time.
The guys at the bar wouldn't wait on them.
We went over and talked to them, trying to help them along and make them feel at ease.
And also to let them know that it is o.k.
To keep the suits on for a wee little amount of time but they really should lose the suits if they want a drink.
They finally left but we saw them having a nekkid good time the rest of the week.
I'm sure they wished they hadn't wasted that nite!!!!
That said, i'd say this is one of many of the compromises we make in a relationship he goes to hedo and gets nekkid and you make him see god at least 4 times a day!!!!
How's that for compromise!!!
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My impression, for whatever it's worth, is that almost everyone is patient with a "first timer" while they get into the situation.
What they're not patient with, is someone who decides it take days, instead of hours, to get comfortable with things.
A little conversation and a couple of drinks is probably sufficient for most people to make up their mind whether they are going to get into the situation or not.
If they haven't decided to "drop the towel" by then, they should probably consider heading on down the beach.
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Diane is right..If he goes naked, but wears a towel he will be fine.
Anyone that notices the towel will figure it is shortly coming off and not worry about it.Alot of guys walk from room to beach with a towel on.
My bet is...he will like what he sees, and drop towel!
Enjoy!!
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Great suggestions re: the towel or sarong.
Walk down to Delroys w/ a towel.
Grab some drinks and chat with the bartenders & folks at the bar.
Then find a nice beach chair, spread out the towel, plunk down to sip your drinks, chat and people watch.
If he's uncomfortable after a couple of drinks, then there's always the nice quiet prude beach.
Chris
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I was certain I would never be able to go nude.
We even paid for a day at HedoII on our first visit to Breezes, 9 years ago (it was only $50 for the day for 2 of us) and I refused to even go over to the nude side.
Our second trip to Jamaica took us to SanSucci which had a very separate nude area.
Made it easy. There were only 4 couples there.
On our 3rd trip we were at Grand Lido Negril where we (thankfully) had a room on the nude side.
I was convinced! Once to HedoIII, one more time to Grand Lido and now HedoII is home.
8th trip in November soon come.
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Originally Posted By: ahrawy that said, i'd say this is one of many of the compromises we make in a relationship he goes to hedo and gets nekkid and you make him see god at least 4 times a day!!!!
How's that for compromise!!!
LOL...no wonder Rich walks around with a big ol' grin all day long!!!
miss ya girlie, hope to see you in Dec.
diane
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Sarongs are great choice for both guys and gals.
I noticed that Walmart had some in the swimwear section...they are probably on supersale up there.
Some of the colors and designs were not too girly too...orange/yellow with suns on them.
Etc...
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Ahh, one of my favorite subjects at hedo.
Tolerance. there is none.
i wholeheartly disagree with almost every poster so far.
Da boss and i can count about 17 trips to hedo land.
The nude side is, by far, one of the most impatient places we've ever seen to try and "acclimate" a person that is not used to being nude, to being or getting nude.
It's been our experience that most feel that the moment you start breathing the nude side air --- dammitt, you should be naked!
Period! if you ain't nekkid, git out!
if the guests don't take it upon themeselves to enforce, i can guarantee you that the security guards will be on your azz before you can even think about "getting comfortable".
Didn't say it was right or wrong.
That's just the way it is.
I'm surprised at all the posters trying to sugarcoat this.
Tell the lady the truth!
By golly, she asked.
some american black men have a problem with the automatically getting naked thing.
Not all, but, a lot.
It's our upbringing.
Yes, i know it's shocking, but, there is, or was, a difference in the way that black and white folk are raised.
it's not something that you can just kick to the curb after years of training.
but, honey, i promise ya, if yoman doesn't pull everthing off and damned quickly, he will git hassled.
Promptly! i've seen it happen way too many times.
Face it, you don't go on vacation to git hassled, at least, i don't.
Your mileage may vary.
Take this from another american black man's point of view.
Stay on the prude side if you wanna nice quiet loving vacation tween the two of you.
If you go to the nude side, have him strip his stuff off 'fore he gits there and just walk out.
It's all in his head.
Do not try and ...acclimate.
It will not be tolerated.
Question answered.
wish you the best.
I'm sure you and he will make the right decision for both of you.
Enjoy hedo either way.
Da boss and i do and will continue to.
Once you get past the jerks, it's really a fun place.
one love.
the baron
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The area in front of the Dive Shack could be considered clothing-optional.
As soon as you head up to the volleyball net, you should be nude.
If you were to start him there, with a sarong, it wouldn't be too difficult for him, I would think to get comfortable with the atmosphere at his own pace.
No one should hassle you if you are by the dive shack.
After a while (hopefully a short while) He will be hearing laughter from the bar and start to thinking about moving closer to the fun.
Edited by Loni and Jim ( Today at 03:55 AM )
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In 12 days we'll be at Hedo for trip #21.
A few years ago we went to Desire for something different, and we didn't care for it.
Desire is clothing-optional.
Hedo's nude side is not.
One thing that surprised us was how uncomfortable we were at Desire when we'd talk to other guests who were clothed.
You can't be more vulnerable than to be nude, but clothing was allowed there.
Don't expect a lot of acceptance around the pool if he continues to violate the one main rule on Hedo's nude side, and I know there are some bartenders who won't serve him.
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