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Afrocentric Online :: View topic - Should a person discipline a step child?
Should a person discipline a step child?
If so, to what extent?
Does age matter? Does gender matter?
Would you mind if your s/o whip your child?
Fellas, would you mind another man disciplining your child?
Ladies, would you mind another woman disciplining your child?
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Hell yes. Your new spouse is now respnsible for that child's well being in every way but they can't lay down the law.
If that child is living under your roof and you're taking care of them the discipline goes with the package.
This is still some parents downfall.
Nothing galls me worse than hearing some sullen chap talking about "You ain't my Daddy!" Naw lil mofo, I sure ain't but I'm about to give you what your rotten ass deserves.
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Kai, is that a photo of a snakehead fish?
Anyway, back to the question at hand:
So, if you had a child and the child was living under another man's roof (with his mother of course) then you wouldn't have a problem with him disciplining your child?
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Didn't we already have this discussion...right here in this forum?
I coulda swore...
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I think the problems would come if the parent and stepparent living with the child have different methods of discipline that are completely opposite.
Like the parent is more a "time out" and "talking type" and the step parent is a "That's enough Joe (Jackson)" whipper or vice versa.
Growing up in a home with my mom and step dad, there would have been problems with him whipping me if that wasn't my mom's method of discipline.
But since my mom didn't have a problem laying the belt, extension cord, toy train track, house shoe, or the ever fashionable switch to my azz, as an adult now, I don't see the problem with my stepdad (who primarily just stuck to the belt) whipping me.
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I think if you are uncomfortable with your spouses parenting style you should consider marrying them AFTER you kids are grown.
Thats a divorce waiting to happen.
When you get married you married the whole family not just the mother/father.
I would be leary of a spouse who didnt want me to have a hand in raising their child.
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Oh yeah,
yes BB74 we DID have this discussion already
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Yeah we did... but did that stop the other tons of discussions we've already had?
I think we're at the point where we're just recycling...
Baring current events.
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I'm whupping err'body ass...I'on care who's child it is.
Cut up around ME and see what happen.
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I think it depends on the situation.
If the step parent is living in the same house, yes.
The rules should be set from the get go.
If they aren't living under the same roof, I think it's up to the parents to do the disciplining.
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Drooling over GM's pic.
Don't touch those things GIRL!!!
My daughter lives 5,000 miles away with her mother and stepfather.
I really don't have that much input into what type of discipline she recieves from either of them since I see her about once a year.
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Hell Yes!
Rules of the house apply to every one living there.
STEp parent or not.
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If a child is in "MY" care and I am responsible for their well being...
Yes I am going to treat them no different then I would treat my own child...
If something detrimental happen to the child in the step-parents care...
Everyone including the biological parent would be all over that shit...
So YUP I will show no difference.
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I think it depends on the individual situation;
Although I'm inclined to discipline any children with whom I come come into contact and whoever doesn't like it needs to keep their children away from me.
Stepparent or not, I can't see my son 24/7, so if you see my son acting a fool out in public, I EXPECT for you to pull his card and/or let me know!
I remember being in school...my mother used to find out A LOT of shit I did and I would be like ...come to find out she had eyes all ova!
I have never been a stepparent, but the reality is that should I marry, someone will become stepparent to my son and in looking at today's society, it's a real possibility that I'll become somene's stepparent.
I would have no problem disciplining someone else's child (especially where I'm paying the bills and in MY castle) and I wouldn't mind my husband disciplining my son (hell I'd expect it)!
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