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18 days until im due & so so so nervous about labour - Bub Hub Pregnancy & Parenting Forum

Hi Ladies, Looking for a few comforting words here!

Im 18 days off my due date & the first half of my pregnancy seemed to drag, I had no worries about labour cause it was still so far off, I had told myself it's a natural thing etc...

So nothing to be 'scared' about Now the second half of my pregnancy especially from 30 weeks has absolutely flown.

The fact I dont have a big belly and have no real physical discomforts hasnt made the end of my pregnancy drag It has done the opposite I feel like it's all coming to an end VERY VERY quickly. I've found over the last few weeks im really dreading the whole thought/pain of labour if im sitting around and start thinking how close it is I get a wave of nervousness and I feel a bit jittery!

Any tips from other ladies who felt like this?

I've been reading a book called birth skills and i've found it helpful....

I'm not usually a sook when it comes to pain but this is a different story! I know feeling nervous is a normal feeling but it is probably going to get my adrenaline pumping a bit too much and could slow my labour right down so just after some useful advice ?? Thanks!

Iv already given birth twice and now at 8 weeks im dreaming about doing it again and its absolutely horrible and with still 7 months to go im crapping my pants, I was lucky my first labour was 3 hours and my second 30mins, Hopefully you will be lucky too,

Hey!! I have 24 days to go , and until I saw your post I wasn't thinking about it too much so GRRR at you!!

Seriously, though I think, and this is way too typical of me to say, but just keep telling yourself that it's only one day, after that you have a gorgeous bundle of joy to hold .

I have just kept reminding myself of that all through this pregnancy, and it makes me feel better.

I have been actually hoping, which is a little naughty I know, that I will just hurry up and go early, as I'm just fed up, and I know that this is my last so I sorta can't wait to have my body back to myself again .

Being able to bend over and pick something up off the floor would be bliss without getting out of breath!! I understand how you feel about the pain, I start to get agitated when i think about it, and sometimes I think "just have a Caesar!!".

I don't want to scare you as everyone's different, but I couldn't deal with the contractions, and ended up with an epi both times.

But I'm trying to avoid that this time and keep active, and hopefully use the shower and heat packs. I haven't read "Birth Skills", but then I've been very lazy.

Do yout think it's too late for me to read it?? Good Luck with your birth!!

First of all a big Congrats on the up coming birth of your bub.

How exciting for you. I guess the only thing I can suggest is to be positive and open to the whole thing.

Your mindset plays a big part in everything.

In the first instance your bub may not come yet if you are apprehensive about it.

They too need to feel that you are ready. One way or another in a few weeks you will be holding your bundle and that is the most amazing feeling ever.

Have a plan and be strong about it.

Make things happen the way you want.

Saying that be really open to anything that may need to happen.

Each birth is a mystery and different for everyone.

If you go down the path of a natural drug free birth just know that your body will let off it's own natural type of drugs equivalent to ecstacy and heroin if I remember reading correctly.

The body is amazing and can handle this.

Standing and moving positions in labour are great.

Lying on your back is meant to be more painful.

I was dancing the most un-co looking dance moves to my favourite trashy 80's music but they helped keep my mind in a better place.

Showers or baths are also great for pain even though I didn't get to have one.

My other saviour was heat packs.

Had them constantly running to heat it up.

(My advice buy yourself a gel hot/ cold pack.

It moulds to your body better then the hosptial ones.) If you need some extra help I would suggest just using the gas first as it is the least bad for bubs.

I didn't use it but was asking for it the whole time.

My midwife said that I was so cool and calm when asking for it that she knew I didn't need it, haha. Do lots of research and know about all the other types of intervention.

Be able to make informed decisions when the time comes and be able to know what exactly it is you and your bub are being subjected to.

I had so much knowledge that it was really empowering for me. Basically just be don't be scared and stay positive, surround yourself with beautiful people (family/ hospital staff) that agree and support your wishes.

Be strong. Be open to anything and if you really need something then do it.

But don't let anyone do anything to you that you don't want, don't understand or don't feel right about.

Be open to what your body is telling you. I hope this helps and just doesn't seem like I'm telling you how you have to do it.

I'm not. You will find your own path and it will be your own beautiful experience with your own story to share.

I wish you all the best in the next few week and I know you can do this.

How ever it happens (Natural, cesarian, induced, etc..) just know that you are wonderful.

Thanks for your replies ladies i've also been telling myself 'it's only one day' and I know the end result is definately worth it!

Im trying to tell myself that with each contraction etc..

Im getting closer to meeting my baby. I've done the research on pain relief and am not really too keen on any of it, maybe thats why im freaking myself out?

I need to be a bit more open to using it if I really think I need it, which im sure I will do at the time. The hospital im going to is great and so are the staff so im feeling confident about that, just not happy im feeling so nervous about giving birth but your replies have made me feel a little bit better! Jackzmumma - I only started reading birth skills with 8 weeks left to do so yes you have plenty of time Compared to me anyway!

Congratulations! You'll soon have your bub in your arms. I was induced and ended up having an epidural, but I can honestly say that I loved my labour, and would have no concerns about going through it again.

That first moment when you hold your baby in your arms is truly magical. It's easy for me to say don't worry, but honestly just make sure you're well informed about intervention / pain relief and try to relax. Good luck!

I wont lie to you - it does hurt like hell, but just keep reminding yourself that there is a finishing point, and that each contraction is one step closer to seeing your beautiful bub.

Its also a bit more comforting & reassuring to know that there are drugs available these days to manage the pain if you need it.

You dont need to be a hero or martyr in child birth - just go with whatever you need.

Its amazing what our bodies can do & what they can tolerate.

I remember the midwife saying to me that with a natural birth (non-induced), your body will only allow you to experience as much pain as you can tolerate.

Before I gave birth to my first bub, my best friend said to me that when you start to feel strong pressure in your bum, its time to start pushing, and when you feel a stinging sensation, the head is probably crowning.

I felt these exact things in labour & then knew I was near the finishing line!

For my 2nd bub (now 6 months old), I had an i-pod in & it really helped keep me distracted.

As I felt a contraction coming, I pumped up the music (80's hits!), & tried to sing along in my head until the contraction passed.

However, when it got to the song "girls just wanna have fun", I did chuck it across the room, as there was absolutely nothing fun about what I was doing!

Good luck with it all.

Its such an awesome experience that you can really only appreciate when you've been through it.

Congratulation! I was terrafied about labour as the final count down to my due date began. When I had my first few contractions I was so excited to be in labour I didn't even think to be scared.

As I progressed I was so pleased with myself, the midwife and my mother kept telling me how amazing I was doing, how incredible I was, it was like all the love and attention in the world was focused on me. As labour got my serious and painful, I think I was so focused on getting through each contraction to get upset.

I think you go to a different place when your in labour (gas helps to take you to that place in my opinion nothing like being a little stoned to take the edge off!) There were a few occasions during my extremely long labour where I broke down crying, or didn't think I was going to get through it, at one point my midwife was asking me how much longer I could go for and we would just focus on getting through one hour after the next, which worked for me. Mostly though, I was quiet, I was still, I was focused, I breathed, I snapped the head off anyone who came near me, spoke to me or touched me.

At random intervals I'd have this feeling of coming out of labour for long enough to demand food or drink, suddenly the room would be clear I could see, I could hear, someone would feed me or put a straw in my mouth, and then I'd sink back into my body and no longer be aware of what was going on.

Just focusing. Being in labour was a very powerful experience.

I feel really ripped off that I missed out on delivering my son naturally (there were some complications and I needed an emergency csection) but I remember the obstrician telling me to stop pushing and I had no awareness of the fact i was pushing...

I couldn't stop myself from pushing because my whole body was pushing for me.

My body was craving the relief that would come from pushing.

I really feel sad that I missed out on giving my body what it wanted. Goodluck!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I know this is easier said then done but what helped me was to have no expectations, I went into it very open minded and willing to do whatever it took to get my baby out as safe as possible.

I ended up being induced and i have to admit that the pain (for me) was not as bad as i thought it was, i was in labour for 20 hours and although it sounds like a long time it honestly went so fast it wasnt funny.

Giving birth was the most amazing, positive and powerful experience of my life and there are no words to describe how good it feel's when you finally get to meet your baby for the 1st time .

I'm the biggest sook and dont handle pain well at all but ended up giving birth totally drug free.

I loved being in labour (sad i know) and cant wait to do it again some day. Good Luck

Shan my sweet friend as scared as you are and will be, you will be amazing.

Have faith in yourself, your body and your baby.

Do what you want in regard to pain relief and don't let anyone talk you out of having what you want.

I'm so excited for you




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